Did you make a New Year’s resolution? By the end of the year, research says there will be an 8% chance you’ve kept it.
Why so low?
Because objects in motion stay in motion. Objects at rest stay at rest. To change their course or get them going, you need external force. And the bigger something is, the more force it requires. You’ve experienced this if you’ve ever tried to push a car.
The same is true of your resolutions. They require change, a new force, willpower. And that means working against nature, working against what you’ve become accustomed to.
They say one of the best times to change a habit is when you move. Why? Because you’re already undergoing major, unavoidable change. While everything is in motion, you can get that new habit in motion, as well. It’s a natural new start. And it’s easier to start that way, than to try to change later.
That’s an important general truth––it’s easier to start that way. Changing later is hard.
“Because we’ve always done it that way” is a common phrase in corporate culture and church culture. It’s usually derided as a bad answer. But it’s also human nature. When we start doing things from the beginning, we’re likely to continue doing them.
How to use “we’ve always done it that way” for good
While we usually sneer at “we’ve always done it that way” as an uncritical, unreflective response, it can be just the opposite. Whenever you start something new, you have a great opportunity. Ask yourself this question:
Ten years from now, what do we want to look at and say, “We’ve always done it that way”?
Let’s take generosity as an extended example. I’m going to start with a thought about churches and then say something about families and individuals.
NEW CHURCHES & GENEROSITY
Several years ago, I was with the leader of a new church start in another state. They were about two years old at the time. He talked about how they were still trying to get established and hoped to start giving to missions and our denomination’s ministry fund (called apportionments) soon. They weren’t yet giving anything externally. Actually, they were receiving external funds.
That’s not unusual. They were two years old and still trying to get their feet under them.
About five years later, that new church start was still going. They had grown and hired multiple staff. I saw their pastor and asked how they were doing. Not well, it turned out. They had just learned they were losing their external funding, and they weren’t sure how they could survive without it. They were still giving nothing to missions or the denominational fund and still relying on external support.
How does that happen? They had grown and looked to be thriving! But from the beginning they had required every penny for themselves––plus some outside funding. And when their resources grew, their internal need grew equally. So that great ideal of starting to give some away remained just an ideal.
For new church starts, a wild and unusual suggestion––ask yourselves how you want to be giving ten years from now, and then start giving like that on day one. Because if you choose to use everything internally until there’s “enough to spare,” you’re likely to find yourselves ten years later with still nothing to spare. And if you choose to give generously from day one, in year ten you’ll be able to say, “we’ve just always done it this way.”
I’m going to take a moment and celebrate the church and community I have the privilege to be a part of. First UMC has always been a generous church, and a few years ago, they decided to automate it––no questions asked about whether to be generous, in lean years or good years. The church puts 12% of every dollar given immediately into a fund for missions and puts another 13% immediately toward our denominational fund––which goes to support important missions locally and around the globe. That’s 25% out the door to support missions external to us. It’s automatic, immediate, no questions asked.
As my community at First Church (called Offerings) has looked to move from our Downtown campus, our leaders have never wavered on this. 25% goes out the door from the very first day. They want extravagant generosity to part of our identity, and they don’t want to start that later. If you think you’ll start later, you may never get around to it. They want to say, “We’ve just always done it that way.”
To be certain, this involves sacrifice. If we kept that extra $20,000, I can tell you quickly how we would use it. If we had an extra $40,000, I can tell you how we’d use it. But isn’t that always the case? There’s always something more. Always something more we would like or could use or even think we need. And that’s why if you don’t start giving generously from the beginning, it’s likely you never will. Changing that pattern doesn’t get easier when you get bigger. Remember trying to push that car from stand-still?
The same goes for individuals. So you’re just getting started at your first job, just barely scraping by? You couldn’t possibly be generous now. That’s for when you have more.
As your resources grow, so will your appetite. If you don’t set a pattern for generosity now, on that just-out-of-college budget, you’ll be shocked that you have just as little to spare on a nice 6-figure salary later. Even more, if you find that right now you need 110% just to get by (i.e. what you’re making isn’t quite enough to sustain, so you take on a bit of debt…), you’re likely to need 110% to get by, even when you’re making 6 figures.
Whether you’re just starting out, or just got a new job or raise… take advantage of anything new and ask whether you can start a new pattern now.
A big challenge for any of you who want extravagant generosity to be part of your identity… It’s 2015. What if you resolved to give away 15% of your income this year? And made it 16% next year? You see where this is going… If that’s impossible for you (ask yourself if it’s really impossible), then set your own numbers.
Years from now, someone may ask how you––as a church, or a family, or an individual––can be so generous. And I hope you might be able to say, “I don’t know. We’ve just always done it that way.”