Lust is a thief

casual-sex-formalEvery vice distorts or perverts something good. The tragedy of lust is that it robs us of some of God’s greatest gifts.

God made us for relationships. Deep, intimate, self-giving relationships.

And one of the most intimate human behaviors God has given us is sexual intercourse. By its very designation, sex is intended to be an intercourse––about exchange and relationship.

Lust perverts all of that. Rather than seeking relationship through deep, intimate, mutual giving, lust seeks out its own pleasure. Rather than treating the body and sex as beautiful gifts to be honored and protected, lust treats them as cheap pleasure-delivery devices. “Lust is as irreverent about bodies and sex as it is obsessed with them,” says Rebecca DeYoung in her great little book, Glittering Vices.[note]p. 174. I read Glittering Vices just before writing this series, and I’m deeply indebted to it throughout. I’m sure most of this post could be a footnote to ideas that DeYoung’s book put in my head. I recommend you pick it up.[/note]

How lust is robbing us today

Casual sex, casual nudity, and pornography are eroding our respect for the body and sex. They’re training us to separate two things that God created to go together––intimate relationship and the intimate giving of our bodies. In short, these are training us to replace the deep joy of self-giving relationship with the cheap thrills that lust provides.

One research report after another verifies pornography’s devastating effects on its users’ social relationships and actual sex lives.

In a sexual relationship, we fully give our bodies to another person. When that happens outside the bounds of a marital relationship––a full commitment and joining together of two persons’ lives––we do something with our bodies that we haven’t yet done with our lives. The commitments of our bodies and our lives are out of sync. I suspect this confusion of commitments has contributed to increasing divorce rates. Take a look at this 10-minute video, “The Economics of Sex.” As sex has become easier (as the video puts it, in greater supply), the number of committed relationships has decreased.

Relationships built on lust, whether casual sex or the porn industry, rely on the premise that no one is getting hurt––that these are relationships involving consenting adults. But that notion is fiction. It denies the relation of our bodies to our minds and souls. When you involve your body in something intended for deep intimacy, your mind and soul can’t help but be effected.

Some self-examination and practices

I’m usually quick to absolve myself from most vices when I look at them in their narrowest terms. Once I start to look at the larger concepts, though, I often find those vices lurking within me more than I had expected. Some rigorous self-examination has been good for me. I hope it might be for you, too.

Our goal here isn’t to feel guilty. Our goal is to identify these vices’ symptoms or catalysts in our lives, then to begin pulling them up like weeds at the root. That will always require God’s grace and will most likely require some dedicated practices on our own part.

In the next week, will you examine yourself for signs of lust? Are there any ways that you’re treating others’ bodies or your own with less reverence and modesty than they deserve?

Two practices:

1 – If lust is really an attack against intimate relationships of mutual-giving, one of the best ways to fight back is to invest in good, mutually-supporting friendships.

Rebecca DeYoung captures this well: “The best advice, then, for resisting lust is not to get an Internet filter (although you should do that too!), but to have good friends. If we have genuine friendships in which we learn to give and receive love in a healthy and satisfying way, we will be less inclined to wander off looking for sham substitutes and quick fixes. Good friendships teach us how to respect one another, to offer appropriate physical affection, to appreciate and care for others without looking for something in return, to trust one another. Someone who knows what real love looks like, whether in a sexual relationship or not, is a person who is less tempted to find lustful pleasures a tempting option.”[note]Glittering Vices, p. 178[/note]

One further question for friendships: Where can you share openly with someone and receive accountability? Not just about lust, but about life. Before Lent is over, can you find a consistent place for openness and accountability? Look for a person or community who will ask you direct-enough questions about good and evil in your life, who will encourage and pray for you and share openly with you, as well.

2 – Examine what you’re consuming. I’ll be specific and direct for a moment here. I’ve been dismayed by the number of devout Christians––even Christian pastors––whom I’ve seen talking about The Wolf of Wall Street. One website describes a few scenes from that movie (out of many similar ones) in matter-of-fact terms [a warning, these are rather graphic]:

“A man masturbates while looking at a woman in the middle of a crowded party (we see his erect penis).”

“A man is shown thrusting into a woman from behind while she performs oral sex on another man (we see her bare breasts and side of her buttock). A man thrusts on a woman while kissing another woman. Three fully nude women (bare breasts, abdomens, buttocks, genital areas are shown) kiss and caress a man lying on a table while a crowd watching chants.”

These depictions dishonor everything about the body and sex. Rather than treating certain parts of our bodies with special modesty, they display them to the whole world. Far from an intimate act of self-giving, sex is a public act that the movie viewers are invited to watch.

If you’re consuming pornographic images like this, and you don’t believe that they’re deforming your value of the body and sexuality, I think you’re kidding yourself. You can’t have a high regard for the intimacy of human sexuality when you sit in a public theater and watch people have sex and display their nudity for public viewing. Might we consider the mere behavior of watching things like this as lustful––a use and abuse of others’ sexuality for your own entertainment? As I’ve said before, I don’t know where the line is on some things like this, but I’m certain this is well past it. If you choose to stop consuming things like this, it might mean you don’t get to see every Oscar nominee. It might mean you miss a great opportunity for cultural engagement and critique. From the earliest days of the Church, Christians self-excluded from some of the culture’s most popular activities. Why shouldn’t we expect a need to do the same today––for the sake of our souls and our witness?

You were made for deep love and intimate relationship. The vice of lust seeks to rob those from you by turning your attention to shallow and selfish bodily thrills. May God fill us all with his self-giving love and free us from lust’s selfish deceit.

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The Idealist’s Dilemma

Dietrich Bonhoeffer in 1932
Dietrich Bonhoeffer in 1932

In 1933, Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote about his strong opposition to German Nazis and, as a result, his opposition to the German Christian Church that had capitulated to them (or in some cases eagerly gone along with them):

I find myself in radical opposition to all my friends; I became increasingly isolated with my views of things, even though I was and remain personally close to these people. All this has frightened me and shaken my confidence so that I began to fear that dogmatism might be leading me astray—since there seemed no particular reason why my own view in these matters should be any better, any more right, than the views of many really capable pastors whom I sincerely respect.[1. from Eric Metaxas, Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy (Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition, 2010), 197.]

He wrote that in a letter to Karl Barth––usually considered the greatest theologian of the past few centuries. Barth was one of the people who disagreed with Bonhoeffer’s stance, or at least found it too extreme.

Almost all of us would look back in history and say that Bonhoeffer was right. His beliefs led him to properly oppose the Nazis while many other “really capable [and respectable] pastors” were swept up by the current of the day, failing to see the injustice and heresy the German Church was permitting and promoting.

Bonhoeffer stood alone. In this, he wasn’t far different from Martin Luther before him. Nearly every voice around them told them to stand down, yet their consciences and beliefs wouldn’t allow it.

But for every Bonhoeffer and Luther, there are thousands of people whose dogmatism has truly led them astray. The voices around them are telling them to stand down––and those voices are right.

The idealist’s dilemma: how does one know if (s)he is another Bonhoeffer or Luther or one of the thousands who truly should stand down? The odds tell each idealistic, would-be reformer that (s)he is likely the latter. Stand down.

But if everyone listened to that advice, we would have no Bonhoeffers and no Luthers. That creates a dilemma for us all.

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The Bible as 100% of God, 100% of man; or, Why I’m not a full inerrantist

Found at http://www.patheos.com/blogs/exploringourmatrix/2013/05/can-biblical-inerrancy-be-a-biblical-doctrine.html
Found at the Exploring our Matrix blog.

I sometimes tell a story about the things God did in my life during a youth mission trip in 2006.

I use times and numbers––”We got to the airport at 7:10… There were 18 youth and 9 adults.” I use those numbers because they give important definition to the story, and because they’re the details of the story, as best I remember. But I’m honestly not certain about them. There may have been 19 youth and 10 adults, and we may have gotten to the airport at 7:15. I don’t remember anymore.

You can listen to my story in two ways. You can appreciate it for what it is––a true narrative account about some important things I experienced. Or you can hone in on all the details and start digging through historical records to see if what I said is true. And if you discover that there were 2 more adults there than I said, you can toss the whole story out as a falsification.

This illustrates the first problem with biblical inerrancy.

You may have heard people say that the original documents are free from mistakes. The “Chicago Statement on Biblical Inerrancy” says, “inerrant signifies the quality of being free from all falsehood or mistake.” For the inerrantists, any factual error––geographical, historical, scientific––makes the whole thing null and void.

First of all, I just don’t think that’s true, as my story above illustrates.

More importantly, I think it leads us down all sorts of rabbit trails. Rather than focusing on the main point of the scriptural account, we end up trying to reconcile the 24,000 who died in Numbers 25:9 with the 23,000 listed for the same event in 1 Corinthians 10:8.

What would happen if I told my story about the great things God did in my life through that 2006 youth mission trip, and the person listening instantly set out to examine the accuracy of each detail? It would be rather upsetting to me. They gave their primary interest to details that were only intended to be support, and they missed the real point of the story.

A focus on inerrancy misses the point of Scripture. It gets us hung up on the minor details, which––I think––may occasionally include some factual errors. Factual errors that may go all the way back to the original writing.

The second problem

Let’s assume those factual errors don’t go back to the originals. That’s the line we hear frequently. “The original manuscripts were inerrant. They were corrupted somewhere in transmission.” And inerrantists take that as some sort of comfort.

It should be the exact opposite. It should be sheer horror to them.

If you claim that the originals were inerrant, but they have since been distorted, then what are you left with?!? Nothing but a distorted, untrustworthy current set of manuscripts. How do you decide just how distorted they have become, if all you can say is that the originals were right, but we no longer have them?

For those who find it so important that the Bible be without error, what could undermine their faith more than the knowledge that a flawless Bible is no longer available to them? And now what’s true and what’s not is just a guessing game. Perhaps an educated guessing game, but let’s face it: if we knew what the originals said, we wouldn’t be having this conversation in the first place.

The third problem

Because the genre of my 2006 mission trip story is literal-historical, it’s still important that this was an historical event, not just a fable.

In other words, if you went back and found out that no such trip ever took place, it would damage my credibility.

To their credit, the authors of the Chicago Statement on Biblical Inerrancy say that they pay attention to genre. This is why they don’t take the parables to be actual historical accounts––they were told as parables, not historical accounts.

Sadly, the same authors don’t seem to really mean it. Here’s what they say about the creation and flood accounts:

We deny that Biblical infallibility and inerrancy are limited to spiritual, religious, or redemptive themes, exclusive of assertions in the fields of history and science. We further deny that scientific hypotheses about earth history may properly be used to overturn the teaching of Scripture on creation and the flood.

The problem: Scripture’s teachings on creation and the flood aren’t written as literal history! They’re written as epic accounts that comment on the nature of God, humanity, and all of creation.

Why do those who hold to biblical inerrancy insist that these early epics are literal history, while they have no problem acknowledging that Jesus’ parables weren’t historical accounts?

Do the efforts to prove the historicity of the creation accounts amount to the same thing as setting out to prove the historicity of the prodigal son? I think so. They’re unhappy and unnecessary adventures. More importantly, though, they miss the real point. What if we spent all of our time trying to prove that the prodigal son really existed and missed the larger point conveyed in that parable? What a shame that would be!

[See “What if I don’t believe the Bible?” for more.]

A different way to regard Scripture

Let me propose something that has surely been proposed before. (If you know, please let me know who has proposed it. I’d love to see more.) Just as Christ came as the Word of God incarnate––100% God, 100% man––might we understand the inspiration and transmission of Scripture as 100% of God and 100% of man?

I believe Jesus came as the perfect Son of God. Sinless and blameless. A perfect representation of God in the flesh. I also believe he had real human will, thoughts, temptations. And I believe he dealt with some of the same weaknesses of being human that we all deal with. I bet Jesus occasionally stubbed his toe.

The person who accepts Christ as fully God but not fully man probably couldn’t accept a Christ who stubs his toe. It would seem undignified, somehow less than perfect. But the great wonder of the incarnation is that the One who is eternal and almighty came into our time and took on human weakness!

I believe the same regarding Scripture. I believe its inspiration and transmission are somehow 100% of God, 100% of man. In that, I believe it’s a perfect representation of God, without fault. And yet, I believe it was written by humans. I don’t think they wrote it in some trance-like state that was really just a straight bypass from God to paper. I believe the writing and transmission of Scripture really involved humans. And because of that, I believe it’s possible––in fact, demonstrated––that an occasional geographical or historical error may have occurred. The equivalents of stubbed toes, or of simple human forgetfulness, as my story at top illustrates.

In all, I think we can hold the Bible in the highest of esteem––as something both 100% inspired by God and protected by God in its transmission to us today (might we go so far as to even include its translation??)––and yet something with lots of human fingerprints on it, which will inevitably result in some stubbed toes along the way. But none that affect Scripture’s perfect representation of God and the faith he calls us to.

There’s an easy theological term for this, too: Biblical infallibility.

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Next week: The beginning of a Lent series on the capital vices––Lust is a thief