Why we’re teaching our kids a catechism

I can still remember my parents reading to me from a children’s Bible before I was old enough to read. (For some reason, it’s the Tower of Babel story that sticks out in my head.) And I can remember kneeling on the floor with them and praying before bedtime. I don’t know just how routine these activities were, but they happened often enough to burn into my brain as some of my earliest childhood memories. Of all the gifts my parents have given me, the best and most important has been the foundation and example in the faith that they gave me. The best children’s ministry in town is in your living room. I hope this week’s posts might inspire parents and church leaders toward the same focus.

As part of our Family Worship, we are teaching our kids a catechism. I promised I’d explain why.

1. Bible stories are not enough.

Yes, I said it. For all of us – and even more for children – I believe that we cannot depend on Bible stories alone for an understanding of Christian faith. Since the early days of the Christian movement, we have had canon and creed (i.e. the Bible and various creeds or rules of faith). I’ll write something more in-depth on this topic in the future. For now, let me explain particularly with children in mind…

A catechism gives our kids a lens for looking at the Bible. It gives them the big picture – as brilliant theologians for thousands of years have understood it – and helps them to see where the big ideas show up in the individual stories. So when Adam and Eve hide from God, I ask my kids if God could still see them, and they say yes. When I ask why, they say, “Because God is everywhere!”

By teaching your kids basic theology, you’re enabling them to read Scripture in a better, deeper way. Walk through a garden with a trained gardener and you’ll see the difference in how you each look at it. The same is true for Scripture.

This certainly isn’t to say that children can’t learn theology by reading the Bible. That’s called learning inductively (from particular stories to general theology). It’s great and important! A catechism helps them to apply deductive learning (from general to particular) to the stories, as well. The Bible stories give them the trees; the catechism gives them the forest.

2. A catechism is great devotional material.

Sometimes I’ll lay in bed with one of my kids and ask, “Who made you?” They answer, “God!” I ask, “And what’s the character of God?” They answer, “God is love!” And then we talk about how God made them and how much God loves them.

As we get a little more sophisticated, I can ask, “Was mankind created good?” And my daughter will answer, “They were; God created mankind in his own image, male and female he created them.” When I ask her what that image of God included, she says, “Being like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Then we talk about how God created her GOOD (as opposed to any other messages the world may try to give her)! And that God created her to be righteous and holy. Big words at this point, but ones that I want to help her understand and live. Those two questions should be fodder for talks for a number of years.

3. A catechism is theology and Scripture my kids will have memorized for the rest of their lives.

Do you have the pledge of allegiance memorized? Could you imagine forgetting it? My guess is that you have it engrained permanently. We think the same will happen with this catechism. It’s being implanted in our kids’ minds and hearts. What better to have implanted?

This again shows why Bible stories aren’t enough. At the end of the day, I would rather my kids remember “the Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love,” than the story of Jonah and the big fish. And by memorizing the catechism, they are primarily memorizing Scripture. The quote I just gave is Psalm 103:8.

Spend some time searching and you should find a variety of catechisms out there. Two friends and I updated and revised an old catechism for use in our families and church, and it was recently published by Asbury Seedbed as Echo: A Catechism for Discipleship in the Ancient Christian Tradition. It has 98 questions and answers, in addition to The Apostles’ Creed, the Ten Commandments, and the Lord’s Prayer. I’m obviously partial to it, but there are many options out there.

What thoughts or questions do you have about using a catechism to teach the faith?

 

Family Worship

I said earlier that the best children’s ministry in town is in your living room. A big part of that for us has become “family worship.”

Our family has family worship most nights of the week. It has been one of the best things to happen in the life of our family. Before we started, we couldn’t imagine we would have time or energy to do something like this at the end of the day. Dinner-time and bed-time are wild enough with four young kids.

But family worship has actually brought a centering time to the ends of our days. Through it, I believe we’re bonding as a family, teaching our children orthodox Christian belief, and teaching them how to participate in Christian practices, or “holy habits.”

What we do is pretty simple:

Sing – We sing and dance. We have instruments (a triangle, cymbals, etc.) that we play while we sing. It’s a pretty raucous time.

John Wesley noted: “Our little children we instruct chiefly by hymns; whereby we find the most important truths most successfully insinuated into their minds.” It may not be that different for adults. How many sermons can you quote? Now how many songs? Not to mention what a great medium song is for our worship.

Read the Bible – We always have an Old Testament lesson and a New Testament lesson as part of family worship. Reading both of the children’s Bibles I mention in the resources below, we finish the whole Bible in about 3 months’ time.

Catechism – We teach our kids from a catechism – a summary of basic Christian beliefs. The one we’re using has 98 questions and answers. Our six year-old knows about 15 of them. Our four year-olds know about 10. Our two year-old knows two. I expect they’ll know all 98 by 5th grade.

I think teaching theology, not just Bible stories, is crucial. I explain why in “Why we’re teaching our kids a catechism” and “How Sunday School created a theologically illiterate Church.”

Pray – Praying together as a family has become a great blessing. Sometimes we let the Bible stories or catechism guide our prayers. We often share what we’re thankful for. Other times we have confession and say what we’re sorry for. We even anointed our daughter with olive oil and prayed for her one night when she was sick. Sometimes Emily or I pray, and sometimes the kids lead the prayer time.

That’s our family worship. Some nights we spend 10 minutes, others 30. At the least, we pray, read an Old Testament and New Testament story, and sing. Unless we’re getting home really late, it happens every night. The kids make sure of it now.

Parents: try it for at least a week with your kids. What a great way to share your faith with your kids and bring them up in the faith!

Resources

  • Singing – Sometimes we sing a cappella, sometimes we pull up songs on Spotify and sing along. Some of our kids’ favorite songs: Doxology, Gloria Patri, This is the Day, Mighty to Save, Come Ye Sinners Poor and Needy, Big House. They especially enjoy VeggieTales versions.
  • Scripture – Our kids are ages 6, 4, 4, and 2. For their ages, we especially like The Beginner’s Bible: Timeless Children’s Stories (good for 1-4 year-olds) and The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His Name (good for 3-7 year-olds). If they were a bit older, I’d probably use The Golden Children’s Bible. And by age 9 or 10, I’d consider just reading the Bible itself. We look for Bibles that attempt to tell the Scripture story in a straight-forward manner to familiarize children with the stories and characters (as The Beginner’s Bible does), or Bibles that interpret stories in light of our faith (as The Jesus Storybook Bible does – interpreting every story in light of Christ’s saving work). Beware of the several children’s Bibles out there that attempt to turn the Bible into a set of fables — teaching children simply to be good, moral people.
  • Catechism – I worked with some friends to update and revise an old Methodist Episcopal catechism. It uses simple, Scriptural language and goes all the way from beliefs about God and creation to beliefs about death, judgment, and eternity in 98 questions. Asbury Seedbed recently published it. Find it here.

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The best children’s ministry in town…

The idea of a church with a big children’s ministry – lots of programs and full-time staff – is relatively new and relatively confined to American Christianity. At the same time as youth and children’s ministries have become more popular, even expected, the church has failed tremendously to keep those children as they grow up.

A great children’s ministry is not the answer to bringing the next generation along in their faith.

A note before I’m taken the wrong way here: I’m not saying that church children’s ministry programs are bad. I am saying, though, that they should be a nice supplement, at best.

It seems that the professionalizing of children’s and youth ministry has communicated the wrong thing to parents. It worries me when I hear parents say that they’re part of a particular church because of its great children’s ministry. That statement tends to mean that the parents will make sure their kids are dressed and fed and will leave the faith upbringing to the church.

Parents: The best children’s ministry in town… is in your living room. Your children need to see YOU – not a church staff-person – as their spiritual leader. Your children need to see things like prayer, Scripture reading, singing, and serving others as a natural part of life, not just as a programmed thing led by someone hired to do it.

Most importantly, they need to see you doing all of these things.

I worry that the programmed, professionalized children’s ministry we promote today has made parents feel inadequate. A lot of parents worry that they don’t know enough, or that they don’t know the right ways to teach their kids the faith. As a result, they shy away from it entirely.

See my post on Family Worship. I share some of what my family is doing to try and take our kids’ faith development seriously. It doesn’t require a lot of materials, doesn’t require extensive theological training, and has been very easy to begin using with our family.

And after that, you should read Why we’re teaching our kids a catechism.”

What do you do to promote faith development at home? What difficulties or questions have you had? Use the comments section to share.